Saturday, May 2, 2020

Living a memorial

There were only a few at the graveside. Just the very closest friends and family. Services were minimal, due to the circumstances. No time for the usual mourning, eulogy, ritual and closure. 

All four Christian evangelists describe the burial of Jesus this way. Michelangelo captured its profound sorrow and simplicity in the Pieta, with mother Mary cradling the dead and battered Christ. 

During the coronavirus pandemic, this is how thousands are burying their loved ones. Only they can't touch the deceased. Most can't witness the dying's last breaths or say goodbye from the bedside.  In fact, even those who currently succumb to causes other than COVID-19 are denied traditional wakes, funerals and internment services. For example, cancer claimed my favorite uncle in March. Following the graveside service in New Jersey, his family was told only a priest and one witness would be permitted at future burials. 

Three other families I know did lose loved ones to the virus. Now, they wait for a safe time in the coming months to gather and hold memorials. 

During this Easter season of 2020, there are many compelling lessons to learn from the death and resurrection of Jesus. One is this. The best way to honor and remember those we love is to live their best values. Embody the virtues they possessed, so they walk on with us and through us. 

Also, at his Last Supper, Jesus provided a memorial in the breaking of bread and wine to share for spiritual nourishment. Imagine remembering all those who have gone before us, even once a week while we share a meal. 

"Do this in memory of me," said Jesus. And he lives. 









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